I have been thinking about times that focus has resulted in rewards. Some of those things wonderful and huge. Some of them small and meaningless to others.
It was August and I was working at a job through a temporary agency. I was sitting next to a younger woman who was getting ready to go out on maternity leave. A guy walked by, younger than me. He was wearing dark wash Levis, a tan leather belt, tan leather shoes and a burgundy button up shirt. I turned to this woman (who I still know and talk to) and said “Who is that?” She looked at me and said “don’t bother with him, I heard he was gay” to which I responded “we’ll see about that.” In December me and this guy will be celebrating our 15 year wedding anniversary. Focus.
When I bought my first house, I knew it was a starter home and I also knew it was not my forever home. There was a subdivision in the same town that I’d longed to move into but the house prices were out of reach for me. I would stop by and go through the display homes regularly. I’m sure that the realtor there thought I was a nut case, constantly coming through the display home for years. Always admitting that the homes were not in my price range. Five years ago, I built a house and moved into that subdivision. Focus.
My cat. My ever popular cat. Do you know how long I dreamed about having a cat? Perhaps a silly dream but for years I bugged Jason about a cat. Finally, before my last hernia surgery (last as in prior to the one I’m about to have … I’m hoping that the next one is the last one. Ha!) he caved in. I took my sister and both of the girls because I wanted a cat who would be good with children. That is how Jeffrey came home with me. Focus. (Note: he hates the kids).
My previous job was wonderful and horrible all rolled into one. I learned so, so much there. but I became overly invested in it. I let the job define me. I rejoiced in every signed contract and cried over every lost one. I worked many, many hours to do anything that would help the company grow. I treated it as if I owned the company. After many years I realized I had gone too far and I needed to get out. But my debt was high and I just moved into the house of my dreams. I could not change things without the debt going away. I developed a plan. I no longer have heavy debt strapping me down. Nor do I work at that job (in all honestly, it was actually a career. I’m either not cut out for a career or too cut out for it. You decide). Focus.
More recently I decided that I wanted to do more reviews and giveaways on the blog. I also made specific decisions about what I did and did not want to review. I now have a dresser full of items for review. Perhaps too many. It’s quite the habit that I’ve developed. Focus. (Not my worst habit though…this one is the worst….)
So what’s my point? Maybe it’s nothing. Or maybe it’s everything. What I know is that these are only a few examples of things I’ve done when I’ve put my mind to it. If I really want it, if I really stay focused then I can overcome obstacles to achieve my goal no matter how big or how small. I will get the body of my dreams. I’ve done that before or come close to it. But this time will be different. This time once I’ve achieved my goal, I’ll maintain it. Until I’m 100. Or beyond. Focus.