With Focus Comes Rewards


I have been thinking about times that focus has resulted in rewards. Some of those things wonderful and huge. Some of them small and meaningless to others.

It was August and I was working at a job through a temporary agency. I was sitting next to a younger woman who was getting ready to go out on maternity leave. A guy walked by, younger than me. He was wearing dark wash Levis, a tan leather belt, tan leather shoes and a burgundy button up shirt. I turned to this woman (who I still know and talk to) and said “Who is that?” She looked at me and said “don’t bother with him, I heard he was gay” to which I responded “we’ll see about that.” In December me and this guy will be celebrating our 15 year wedding anniversary. Focus.

When I bought my first house, I knew it was a starter home and I also knew it was not my forever home. There was a subdivision in the same town that I’d longed to move into but the house prices were out of reach for me. I would stop by and go through the display homes regularly. I’m sure that the realtor there thought I was a nut case, constantly coming through the display home for years. Always admitting that the homes were not in my price range. Five years ago, I built a house and moved into that subdivision. Focus.

My cat. My ever popular cat. Do you know how long I dreamed about having a cat? Perhaps a silly dream but for years I bugged Jason about a cat. Finally, before my last hernia surgery (last as in prior to the one I’m about to have … I’m hoping that the next one is the last one. Ha!) he caved in. I took my sister and both of the girls because I wanted a cat who would be good with children. That is how Jeffrey came home with me. Focus. (Note: he hates the kids).

Jeffrey the cat

I now have this folding chair permanently in the living room because “the boss” refuses to give it up.

My previous job was wonderful and horrible all rolled into one. I learned so, so much there. but I became overly invested in it. I let the job define me. I rejoiced in every signed contract and cried over every lost one. I worked many, many hours to do anything that would help the company grow. I treated it as if I owned the company. After many years I realized I had gone too far and I needed to get out. But my debt was high and I just moved into the house of my dreams. I could not change things without the debt going away. I developed a plan. I no longer have heavy debt strapping me down. Nor do I work at that job (in all honestly, it was actually a career. I’m either not cut out for a career or too cut out for it. You decide). Focus.

More recently I decided that I wanted to do more reviews and giveaways on the blog. I also made specific decisions about what I did and did not want to review. I now have a dresser full of items for review. Perhaps too many. It’s quite the habit that I’ve developed. Focus. (Not my worst habit though…this one is the worst….)

These are all current issues. And, yes, I have digital issues of others. Do you think this is a problem?

These are all current issues. And, yes, I have digital issues of others. Do you think this is a problem?

So what’s my point? Maybe it’s nothing. Or maybe it’s everything. What I know is that these are only a few examples of things I’ve done when I’ve put my mind to it. If I really want it, if I really stay focused then I can overcome obstacles to achieve my goal no matter how big or how small. I will get the body of my dreams. I’ve done that before or come close to it. But this time will be different. This time once I’ve achieved my goal, I’ll maintain it. Until I’m 100. Or beyond. Focus.


33 thoughts on “With Focus Comes Rewards

    1. Carla Post author

      Probably not really a priority or not ready to make it one.

      Thank you! It’s funny the things we remember, my mind grasped that not knowing if I’d ever even see him again. Love at first sight is true. :)

  1. Tina Muir

    I think you have hit a great point Carla. Life is all about focusing on what is most important to you. Sometimes we spread ourselves so thin trying to do everything we should be doing, when in fact what we truly want is totally different to everyone else. When we focus on what is most important to our lives, we are able to do things better, and get what we want.

    For me I spend many more hours focusing on running, all the little things involved, because I WANT that Great Britain Jersey in my hand, and I know someday I will get it. I make time for the little things, because that is what i want the most. Thanks for reminding me of this, now I am re-energized :)
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    1. Carla Post author

      You will get the Great Britain Jersey, Tina! Your focus shows through. I’m so happy that you are re-energized by this!

  2. Tamara

    I’m an all or nothing girl, it seems. I can be fierce and ambitious. I can be totally worthless too!
    My dream school was Douglass College of Rutgers University. I didn’t have the grades for it by junior year but I worked my butt off for the next two years. It wasn’t quite enough because I got wait-listed. I accepted to another school, also part of Rutgers, and went through my orientation there. It depressed me.
    On a whim I wrote a heart-felt letter to my dream school and invited them to view my transcripts again, along with my new entrance exam scores.
    I got in a week later.
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    1. Carla Post author

      That is an incredibly wonderful story and commitment to your dreams! I think heart-felt letters go a long way. When I went to college to study respiratory therapy I applied for an extension program though Mizzou that only accepted 13 students a year and hundreds applied. I did not have the grades that many of these others had but my compassion for RT scored me spot at the school.

    1. Carla Post author

      I get sidetracked easily as well but it’s usually during a small task. Not the overall big picture. Although given enough task distractions it makes it hard to get to my end goal in a timely manner.

  3. Tara Newman

    Yup. I had a mentor that told me do one thing and do it 120%. Don’t do 6 things at 20% each. It gets harder as your interests and life expands but always comes back to knowing what our priorities are. I am working through this now as I clearly lost focus of my priorities and got really run down.
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    1. Carla Post author

      It’s amazing how the items that are out of our focus are the ones that wear us down the most. Blogging can do that for me because my focus is actually my fitness and not vice versa.

  4. Chastity

    I love this! I am firm believer that the only person who stands in the way of achieving what we desire is ourselves. Focus is a great way to look at it. I’m going to put this to use in my own life. I have a lot of big goals for the next few years and I’m going to “focus” in on them!
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  5. Alison Hector

    Way to go, Carla! Focus is my word for this year, so it’s great to read of your many victories in the area of focus. If we set our minds to it, we can do it! May that be our mantra. Here’s to more even more focus!
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  6. Kristy @Runaway Bridal Planner

    I love this, and I love that work Focus! I really need to focus more, and make sure I am not missing out on missed opportunities, keep focus on my goals and happiness and let everything else work out how it will. I really needed this post today, as I am going through some crazy thought process that affect my life and career right now. I’m going to use that word Focus in my mind this weekend as I am making my decisions!
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    1. Carla Post author

      I’m so glad that this post came at a helpful time. I love it when we all seem to get each other and lift each other up. I hope that you are getting things sorted out with your life / career.

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