2014 Is About Focus #onewordresolution

I’ve been reflecting a lot on this past year. With fearless being my one word resolution for 2013, I pushed forward and got outside of my comfort zone. What’s nice about a one word resolution is that it’s not here and then gone. When you take a step each morning and think about how you’re going to use that word it becomes ingrained in you. Like a habit. Like breath. I will continue to live fearlessly but I will do it with focus.

focus #onewordresolution

I’m Real Into a lot of things but where is my focus? Where is my heart? How will I use that to be a better me. When I looked up focus on Merriam Webster there are many definitions of the word. As if focus were…unfocused.

to bring into focus I have many years to live in this world and many years that have passed. The years in the past seem like some sort of hazy dream where I just moved along not thinking about where it will take me. Or where it won’t. I want my future to be vivid. Clear.

to cause to be concentrated I love to learn. To discover something new. But have I really looked at something closely or looked at many things briefly? I want to learn through my experience; to have them etched upon my heart and soul so I can share with others.

This year when I make decisions I want to make them with purpose and focus. I want to think about why I’m doing it. Is it to please others or to please me? Will it make me stronger and healthier in body and mind? Or am I just chasing dreams that have no destination?

Ultimately the focus is on me. Not in a selfish way. In a positive and uplifting way. I want to focus on who I am and stop trying to emulate others. At 44, I’m ready to become a big girl. Maybe even a woman. To stop focusing on being the popular kid and focus on being the confident one. Confident in my skin. In my mind. In my home. In my life.

Before I close out, I want to provide a list. Not a list of resolutions or things that will fizzle out as the year moves on. A list of focus for the year. I make no promises of mastering these things today or starting them tomorrow. Only a promise to stay focused and move towards betterment. And to share what I learn with you.


  • To run a half marathon (or two)
  • To eat by the 80/20 rule (where the 80 is the clean part, and not the other way around)
  • To cook more
  • To plan menus


  • To blog with my heart and not with my pocketbook (although, I won’t turn down a buck!)
  • To share what I’ve learned in a positive way; whether good or bad
  • To not be afraid of my writing but to better it


  • To remember what holidays are really about and celebrate them with joy
  • To leave the mess in the room just a bit longer and not apologize for it
  • To hang curtains and claim my space. Make it mine but to be enjoyed by others
  • To remember the first day that I saw Jason on his sickest days and hold it in my heart
  • To give my grandkids memories that they can hold in their hearts forever


  • To go to church even though Jason is too sick to go with me
  • To spend more time bringing God closer, and less time pushing Him away


  • To focus on quality; not quantity

I hope that you will find your one word for 2014. The word that sums up who you are and who you want to be all in one. What is your word?


51 thoughts on “2014 Is About Focus #onewordresolution

    1. Carla Post author

      I can’t wait to see your post later this month. Would love to see you make this a prompt. Having a word is much easier than a list and more achievable.

  1. Tamara

    I’m still wondering what my word is, but so much of this (nearly all of it) made me think of myself. Am I dreaming big dreams with no destination? It’s like I magically think I’ll get there somehow without the focus and work..and courage.
    Courage is probably always my word.
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  2. Allie

    Such a great word!! As you know, my word is BULL and I’m sticking with it :-)
    I really love what you said about becoming more confident and less worried about the popular girl. I try to work on that everyday. Why is it so hard to just be who I am sometimes? I can so relate.
    Great lists, especially for your family. I too shall leave the mess a little longer!
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    1. Carla Post author

      I love your word and that you can use it so many ways! I think being a blogger makes the popular girl syndrome that much worse! Ignoring the mess has to be good for the soul. :-)

  3. Missy

    Great idea for the one word resolution. I think mine needs to be “resolute”. I need to regain my focus, my drive, my purpose and not waiver the way I did in 2013.

    1. Carla Post author

      There is a 4 day bible study on the YouVersion bible app that can help you pick your word. Thanks for your kind words about Jason, Kim.

  4. Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama

    You chose the perfect word!! I love it. I have a lot of the goals in common with you, I want to blog more from the heart as well, I think I hesitate sometimes and never really say the hard stuff because I am not ready to share that with my readers except I know its really the only way to change. I am also down with the 80/20 rule and drawing God closer. I need to be quieter so I can hear Him more.
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    1. Carla Post author

      Personally, I don’t think that blogging from the heart always has to be deep and meaningful thoughts about something going on with you personally. It is more about letting the words fl i w regardless of subject. Hope that makes sense.

  5. Brittnei

    This is a nice way to narrow down your goals for this year using your resolution word focus. I’m sure you will be happy at the end of this year with how you were able to accomplish these goals. You seem like such a driven and motivated person. Can’t wait to read more posts that come from your heart. :) Happy New Year, Carla!
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    1. Carla Post author

      I feel like sometimes I just skate a long way too fast and miss out on so much. I think Focus will keep me from doing that. I hope you get lots of quality time with your family!

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  8. Leslie

    What a great choice! Focus is the hardest thing for me. I tend to set grand, generic goals that are hard to obtain, because they’re hard to define. You’ve done a great job identifying specific goals…which is a fantastic start to your one word challenge.
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    1. Carla Post author

      Thanks, Leslie! I find focus outside of this blog extremely difficult. Actually the plan is to focus on the blog less not more and thereby make everything better. Or so I hope. LOL

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  13. Hope

    I absolutely love how you presented your word. That’s a great list to focus on this year. I think, like you said…if the focus remains on you, that will help you focus on the things you want to accomplish. Cant wait for your race recap on your half marathon(s)
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  14. Leanne

    LOVE this post, and all of your plans for FOCUS this year! I, too, selected FOCUS for 2014 . . . and so far, I’m heading in that direction. Love the breakdown of how you are going to keep going this year. Great job!
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